Transformation Church
Discussion Guide

What's Your Fantasy

Pastor Brad Livingston
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March 2, 2025

Main Idea

Pastor Brad's main idea in 'What's Your Fantasy' was that we must align our expectations with God's reality when it comes to relationships. He pointed out that we often hold onto fantasies that can lead us astray, such as the belief that a partner will complete us or that marriage will solve our personal issues. Instead, he encouraged us to focus on our relationship with God and personal development, ensuring we are ready for the right person when the time comes. Pastor Brad stressed that understanding who we are in Christ is essential before entering into a relationship.

Scripture References

Exodus 24:12, Exodus 24:15-18, Exodus 32:1, Exodus 32:4, Proverbs 29:18, Proverbs 16:9, Colossians 2:10, John 10:10, 1 Peter 1:14-16

How can we differentiate between our fantasies and God's reality in relationships?

If you're investing time in someone who's wasting it, you'll miss out on the one who's truly worth it.

What are some non-negotiable values you believe are important for a healthy relationship?

Discussion Questions:

How can knowing who we are in Christ help us in our relationships?

Why is it important to focus on personal growth before entering a relationship?

How can we avoid making a partner or relationship an idol in our lives?

Anything you rush because you're dissatisfied with God's timing has become an idol in your life.

Summary

In 'What's Your Fantasy,' Pastor Brad challenged us to confront the unrealistic expectations we often have about relationships and marriage. He emphasized the importance of being prepared for the reality of a partnership rather than clinging to fantasies. Using the story of Moses on Mount Sinai, Pastor Brad illustrated how quickly we can turn from God's promises to our own desires, as the Israelites did when they created a golden calf. He addressed singles and married individuals separately, urging singles to invest in their future marriage now and married individuals to work on their marriage's health immediately. He debunked four common fantasies about relationships, highlighting the need for personal growth and reliance on God rather than expecting a partner to fulfill all our needs or fix our problems.

Call to Action

Some next steps to take this week:

Establish the non-negotiable values for your life.

Reflect on who God wants you to be before seeking His person for you.

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