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Relational Vampires: Loving the People who suck the life out of you | Control Freaks | Part 1

Tyler Minton
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October 27, 2024

Main Idea

The main idea of Pastor Tyler's message was about dealing with controlling people in our lives. He emphasized that we must understand our own calling and not let others dictate our actions through threats or guilt. By referencing the interaction between Jesus and Peter, Pastor Tyler showed us that even well-intentioned loved ones can try to control us, often without understanding God's plan. He encouraged us to recognize controlling behaviors, set clear boundaries, and prioritize God's calling over people-pleasing.

Scripture References

Matthew 16:22-24

1. Can you recall a time when you felt controlled by someone? How did you handle it?

You know you've crossed a line when Jesus calls you Satan - a reminder that even the closest to us can become controlling if we don't set boundaries.

2. How can we differentiate between genuine concern and controlling behavior in relationships?

Discussion Questions:

3. What are some practical ways to set boundaries with controlling people without damaging the relationship?

4. How does understanding our personal calling help us deal with controlling people?

5. In what ways can we ensure that we are not the ones exerting control over others?

If you give control to a person, God is no longer directing you - someone else is.

Summary

In the sermon 'Relational Vampires' by Pastor Tyler Minton at New Series, we explored the challenge of loving people who try to control us. Pastor Tyler shared personal experiences and biblical insights, highlighting that controlling people can be like emotional black holes, always demanding more. He identified threats and guilt as their main weapons and used the story of Jesus and Peter from Matthew 16 to illustrate how to handle such situations. We learned that knowing our calling, recognizing when someone is trying to control us, and knowing when to set boundaries are key to dealing with controllers in a loving way.

Call to Action

Some next steps to take this week:

Reflect on your own life and identify if there are any controlling relationships that you need to address with love and boundaries.

Consider your personal calling and ensure that you're not allowing others to distract or control you away from what God has planned for you.

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